Hi everyone, sorry there will be no 9:15am class today.
I went to high school out west. It was a boys high school that would make the local Balgowlah Boys High school seem like a private school. The first day at school, the Principal's opening address included a line something to the effect of - "this school has a reputation that it is more like a prison than a high school....." For a small Asian kid in a predominantly Anglo-Saxon (99.8%) school of 1200 boys, that wasn't a very comforting statement.
Sure enough from the first day onwards, the school lived up to it's reputation. There was school ground fights almost every day. "Fight, fight, fight'" would go up the chant, as boys would race around to form a circle when two boys would start fist fighting one another. They'd stop only once a teacher jumped in to tear them apart. These fights were brutal, but there were so many of them, that I can become desensitized to the brutality.
There was plenty of bullying. I was bullied a bit, but not as much as some. I was lucky to have an older family member in years above who for a short time protected me. I was also lucky enough to have fast legs. This allowed me to represent the school, hence gain a small degree of sportsman popularity. But the biggest luck of all was that one of the biggest bullies at school lived around the corner and he'd "acknowledge" my existence with a nod and smile.
I remember one time when my cousin and I were just hanging out at the park bored, when around the corner came the whole gang of school bullies. it was like they all decided to get together to have a bully hangout session. It was too late for me and my cousin to run. I don't think my cousin was scared, but I was shaking. I was expecting to get bashed or be ridiculed for being Asian. There's a deep fear that overwhelms a victim. The fear is unbearable.
Over the years in high school and throughout working in Corporates, I watched many get bullied. It's often part of the culture. It was a boys school, with over 1200 boys. It's a law firm with predominantly hard working male. What else could you expect right? Toughen up. Put up with it and keep your mouth shut. That's the rule if you want to be counted in.
Experiences over the years taught me to be resilient. This is a good and a bad thing.Sometimes I put up with things which I should never have to put up with. I have a big issue when I think someone exercises unrighteous dominion or any degree of unkindness over another. I don't know if I am any good at fixing up these issues, but as I get older I become less tolerant to such animal behaviour.
With my oldest son starting high school next year I worry about what his experience will be like. I am definitely concerned about him being bullied. Just like me - he's going to be a small Asian kid in the minority. I hope he will be strong and unbreakable."
over and out.
Ascending ladder of unbroken bear complex, with 100m run in between each set.
1 Bear complex (70/50kgs), 100m run
2 Unbroken bear complex, 100m run
3 Unbroken bear complex, 100m run
and so on
* five burpees if you break a bear complex
Bear complex - squat clean, thruster, back squat, rear-thruster (OR power clean, front squat, jerk, back squat, jerk)
note: must be touch and go.